Picks from Chethan Bhagat's speech

I find it so interesting and so true that I could not resist getting this to my blog. Sorry Bhagat , I hijacked your speech :)

Inaugural Speech by *Chetan Bhagat *for the new batch at the Symbiosis BBA
program 2008

Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to
you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the
comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in
your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when
one is truly elated. The first day in college is one of them. When you
were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would
the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new
classmates - there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement,
the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going
to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be
happy most, if not all the time.

Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old
twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump
on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from
daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party –
several months in advance – just for the day they will cut their own
birthday cake.

I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older
people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark
fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and
bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half?
That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?

Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to
give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against
storms.

To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and
achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for
*you*. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay
package, a particular car or house.

Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks
is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints
force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement.

But it isn't the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr Ambani would not
show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore.
Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar
for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to
work everyday?

They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them
feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study
hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with
people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will
get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you
can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.

Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we
were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's
design. Are you? Goals will help you do that.



I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you
a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful.
Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in
good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There
is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if
your mind is full of tensions.

You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon
or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in
nursery school. Where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your
mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life,
where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth
it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but
this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One
of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student
asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice.
The teacher said - *don't be serious, be sincere*. This quote has defined
my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any
of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is
heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how
will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously,
as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited
validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is
just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a
few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not
programmed devices.

I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it
too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in
life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be
guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and
loneliness of purpose.

Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected
return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is
extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did
this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel
miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers
rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades – how
silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you.

But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to
be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means
you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.

Disappointment's cousin is frustration, the second storm. Have you ever
been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially
relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve,
sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right
goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought
they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years
to get close to a release.

Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something
negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic
assessment of the time involved – movies take a long time to make even
though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process
rather than the end result – at least I was learning how to write scripts ,
having a side plan – I had my third book to write and even something as
simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can
help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously.
Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.

Unfairness - this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how
our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces,
pedigree find it easier to make it – not just in Bollywood, but everywhere.
And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in
India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and
hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the
long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But
realize, there will be some people luckier than you.

In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech
in English means you are pretty darn lucky by Indian standards. Let's be
grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I
have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it.
However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya
Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok.
Don't let unfairness kill your spark.

Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation. As you grow
older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want
Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot
like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What
you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from
even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may
not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains
in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their
second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it
for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that
compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.

There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment,
frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the
monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to
keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.

I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone
gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I
also hope that ten years later as well, you eyes will shine the same way as
they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college,
but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole
country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any
moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from
the land of a billion sparks.

Thank You.

Kids , Enjoy Experience and Excel...

This is a short story and as always some wisdom out it .read on
I happened to visit a house warming cermony of a friend. The house was pretty grand and my friend's father took care of making sure the house is a "Home" for the family. He had quite a lot of experiences in his life and it was no wonder the Job was well done. I congratulated the family and left. After few days , I happen to meet this friend over a coffee table and he was little worried. he was tense that the Toilet fittins had some leakages in STP(sewage treatment plant) and he was not even aware of what to do about to fix this up. Straight and as expected , he called up his father and I am not sure what happened next.

Over to me , I have been struggling to bring my flat up and operational atleast to livable condition. My father stays in a different place and he cannot help as much like my friend's father does. So its been a long roller coaster ride for me to make things work in my flat starting from deisgning the kitchen , furnishing the rooms , selecting a good color to the walls so on and so forth.... Incidently , There was a seepage that happened in my bathroom and I knew the next best thing to do is use the fillers to resolve the issue. The solution was as simple as it was but the problem comes when you don't know why its happening and how to avoid it. Well i learnt it by experience and I was not even worried about this problem..

I started thinking , it shall be true in our kids life as well....Parents generally put lot of do's and don't to thier kids. This is not bad but they cannot learn if there is a restriction. They will enjoy when they experience. It might be good or bad , but the lesson will be learnt. And am sure , it will stay with them for ever. Its the direction and not the binding which should be given to our kids. This will help to unleash the true potential they have and I bet they will gain from "learn by experience" ....

I am pretty happy about my flat though Its not as beautiful as my friend's but there is a sense of accomplishment and vast learning of "Building my home " . I will cherish this for a long time...

Anti- Quotes !!!!

Best Quotes proved wrong...


Out of Sight is out of Mind

The Other day I happened to talk to a person very close to me . We hadn't met for a long time but I never felt she was out of my life. She was enthusiastic and still had lot of things to talk. She was just a carefree gal who kept on talking to me like a kid.The same was true with me and we never felt we need to call or mail. It just happened spontaneously and it works !.....Well , I have some one who I see day in day out but never feel like talking. Minds are away so does the feeling for each other. Its a question I asked for myself and the answer seems to suggest that "its actually not Out of sight is Out of Mind" but its "Out of Mind is Out of Sight". We never happened to cross each other though we are together...well well well its never the sight but the Mind !!!


Change is The only constant in life

This is an hot topic everywhere. Especially true with blue chip companies in particular. Top companies teach this fundamental aspect under "Change Management".
I was attending this conference on "Change management" and at the end of the session
a guy (suppose to be an equity research analyst)asked a question - If change is the only "Constant" in life , then why "Change". Read this phrase once again , do you get any clues. No ,neither could I until I spoke to this smart guy.
He said " The best equity analyst in the industry is the one who kept his client's portfolio without any changes. Believe me , it worked and my portfolio got the best returns...." It also went on to prove that , he constructed the best portfoilio which required minor or no changes at all !!!! Same is true with our life . Learn to adopt to changes but never CHANGE.

"Love is Blind"

- Not after you read this story . Love is never blind and you have to talk :)

10th grade

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.

You will never get out of it alive

“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive” - Elbert Hubbard

There is a world of dissatisfaction in you. You see life as mostly miserable and not Miracle. You see u'r self as a failure. May be a job loss, may be u'r in debts or may be somethin or some one you lost !!!. How do we ever make it to a tipping point where none of these can atleast make u'r life miserable if not happy. Well Its not tough as you think it ought to be. "Think you can , think you can't either way you are right " .

First and foremost , when you hit upon a problem , I want you to do this.
What is the cause of the problem. we often tend to think the effect of the problem. If you are in a bad debt , you always ought to think , bad debt leads to misery in life. Stop ! Dnt think that way. First & foremost, the cause of debt is .......may be ...."You lost the job" !
Thats it , stop at this point .Loss of job is the cause of your debt. Instead of worrying about , the consequences of bad debt , you will invariably think of searching for a job....Believe me , thats what you will do. Try this simple test of " Cause and NOT the Consequence test" on smaller things in life and observe. You need to do this consciously else you will never find your way.

Let me put a real life story in front of you. I just passed out of college and was already in love with a girl whom I decided to marry. 2002 was US slump and neverthless it had , its effect on our Campus placements as well. I dint have a job , when I came out of college. But time was ticking . Not for the job , but for the marriage proposals for my girl. our society is ruthless. everybody see you thru your "Success". So , there was no way I culd have convinced her parents to marry her to me....can I dare to...Yes I did dare to...not because , I was Romio for her and not because I was a batman , who culd just fly her off, but because of a simple rule ...." Cause and not consequence test" effect !!!! There were 100's of reasons as to get depressed @ this situation. Think of all the consequences that culd have happened to me. I culd have gone to slump, I culd not fight back, I culd have lost faith of my parents and many more to add. well , I just realised that , there is no point to think of consequences but try and analyse what can get me married to her. Yes its the "Job" and thats it , stick to that effort and get a damn "Job". It was this effort to date which I remember always. Easy but needs a lille more effort from your end.

Get on with life and dnt think about consequences. Thats why everybody says "Live your life" and now I know what it means -:)

Again think about it and let me know if there is a success story because of this write up

" Life is no doubt a do it yourself project "

When in Slump , Ask the right question

There are at times you feel the whole world is crashed. There are at times , when your relationship has strained. There are and many more to list. If I ask you one thing " List 10 bad things and 10 good things in
your life " , 99% of the times , the "Bad" list is growing and the "Good" list has just shrunk deep. Its surprising to know that "Money" cannot keep you happy. Any amount of "Success" cannot keep you happy. If you look @ bad things that happened to you in your life, its most likely a "Relationship". You will be surprised to know that , a person is happy , if his "eco-system" is good. When I say "ecosystem" , it means the life around you , people you are connected to , emotions you are bound to . So it is this system, you need to "Churn" daily to keep you healthy(mentally) and kicking. Introspect yourself as to what makes you "Happy" and mostly you will have no clue as to what it takes to be motivated and happy. But when a question is asked "what makes you sad " , there might be endless list. These questions will give a clue to you. If you have 5 things that makes you sad , there will be 5 counter one's you can find to keep your self happy. So there is a word called "MAP".

Do this simple test when you are sad for ,ofocurse 1000 of reasons. Pick one of those reasons. May be , I am feeling low because a person close to me hurt me. you would Relax, take a deep breathe and will most certainly ask a question , what made him or her to hurt you ? .Obvious to say , you love that person and hence you are hurt. But if I slightly twist that question , the most appropriate question to ask yourself would be " what makes him or her happy" ? . and more so , u will find 100's of reasons to make him or her happy !!!!

Needless to say , you will eventually be happy for ever -:) .

To make it a little complicated , decisions are made everyday but most of them go wrong. Its becuase , you forgot to ask the "Right question" and hence "ended up" in a slump due to bad decisions.

To take the same example above , if the person close to you "Chose" to leave you & move ahead , you will know for all the right reasons to leave him or her and be happy. This can only be possible if you ask the right question ," what makes him or her happy" ? and the answer is "Leave and Live" . Simple but yet powerful tool to keep yourself "Happy and Motivated" !!

Think ABout it ...All the best.

Value Life

I woke up to a terrible head ache. WHole world looked a shallow water where u culd see nothing and no life. A matrix and much more perplexed thoughts went into my mind. I was feelin drunk last night and a kind of amnesia. Blood started woozing out from my lips and ears. Not sure what happened last night. Clueless and confused . All that I remember is a CRY and nothin else. Slept like a dog as if it was a bad dream but when opened my eyes , the same CRY came from my heart. Did something happened in Night ? Not sure ...Walked into the kitchen , drank some water to my fullest and went to rest room and kept my eyes as low as possible. I was dyin...the same CRY crippled me....unable to think , not able to see and not to know how to stop that CRY. Sun started to set and birds chirp around to their NEST and I was shattered . IT haunted me every where and all tht I could remember is just that CRY....help me GOD...I prayed to my heart and just wandered in my dreams. The sounds of a CRYIN GIRL set the FIRE every corner and I just slapped to BED ...no movements , lip locked and tears in eyes.....help me GOD ....I prayed to my heart.........She was badly injured and I was told there is no hope for her as she was brain dead. I was helpless ....I wondered why I owe her so much and she came to my dreams again & again. She is not my friend nor a sweet heart but yet her eyes stuck me and tears in my eyes....I could not stop her ......help me GOD...I prayed to my heart...She stood brain dead and she was lying in a pool of blood......All that I remember , I was drunk last night and not knew what happened.........2 months later , she was dead and I stopped dreaming.......She crashed my life...She is not my friend nor a sweet heart but yet her eyes stuck me and tears in my eyes....I could not stop her and she was gone for ever................VALUE LIFE - THIS IS A WORK OF PURE FICTION and IMAGINATION of a GIRL who was pushed for a flesh trade , when resisted ,beaten badly and hurt and the intensity you felt when you encounter HER horrific state....

A letter from an Husband after 4 successfull years of marriage

Today is a very special day for me in my life . It was the same 4 years before.
I still remember the bubbly chirpy gal who has a sparklin smile for which the whole college was fida
I Think u still carry that charisma on u'r face .

There were many ups and downs in our life. SOme I fought alone some together and some u alone
what ever happened our relationship blossmed after every hit. Not to mention it all happened for a reason better strange and stupid
yet you been part n parcel of my life and takin care of mine evrything starting from my life towards my pain and towards my happiness
all along ,you were there and cheered me .

What ever lille am today and achieved today is not because I was smart but because of a reason and thats YOU.

Its true , my evry heart beat might not sing a song for you but my life is circled around you and it will always remain the same for ever and ever...

I owe you more than my life and I believe I will try to become a better partner to you than what I am today!!

Think back and I can imagine the jerks u got b'coz of me and hence a salute to you !!!

I am sorry if I have hurt in these 4 years . I wont promise you If I can ever not to hurt you because certain thins are not in my control but I promise " To be part of you in your pain "

We have been friends and foes and husbands and wifes and we played all roles to suit our life . Today people are lukin at us and praisin

felt happy to spend those 4 valuable years with you

I know if it was not you it would not have been anybody else who culd have understood me better.

You are the best and Thai shall always be



ever loving hubby cum cleaner cum friend cum partner cum lover cum kid..........................

Friendship Undefined

For long time I felt strongly thinkin & experienced about it ........

One thing I feel needs to be said is that there are many other relationships that aren’t friendship that are still positive. There are many people I admire who aren’t friends. I work with lots of people who aren’t friends. In fact, I often think it’s a bad idea to work with your friends (more on that another time).

The world isn’t divided into two parts — friends and enemies. I choose to think of friend as a very strong word, representing a very close relationship. I think this may be in part due to what I do, because I need a good solid line separating my public life from my personal. A friend is a personal relationship. I like and admire many people who I don’t consider friends.

One of the hallmarks of a person who is more likely to be a friend-that-was than a friend-for-life, is that person quotes anonymous people who say they were my friend but I betrayed them. That’s such a huge turnoff, that usually wakes me up in an instant. A friend would never even consider saying something like that, because it’s so objectifying, so impersonal, so unfair, so un-friendly. In a court of law you’re entitled to cross-examine.


I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest and most vulnerable. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things, then it’s something other than friendship.

Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. Sometimes you “need a friend” and other times it’s the other way. It’s a trust that’s returned. When I was younger and thought I was in love, a friend said it’s not love unless it’s returned. Friendship and love are not quite the same thing, although there’s a lot of love around friendship. I learned that love isn’t even something about two people, it’s a state of being for one person. You aren’t in love, you are love. You are, whether you acknowledge it or not. The heart that’s pumping blood through your body is an act of love, 24 hours a day

"At the end of the day I go back conquering nothin but to be with my Family and happy ever after . Thats not an happy endin but a beginning of a new life ....." written by Dave winer

An Old Man's Land !

This Article is dedicated in loving memory of one of the grand parent who decided to DIE !

you have been juggling in life ...you have run thru the major slumps and happiness in life. you need money to survive more money to compete n more space to live.Everybody are in a hurry to fight , conquer and withdraw..This cycle is funny...you fight for nothing ! yet at the end of the day you know you have many things to juggernaut tomorrow!...Ha....its a mess you created for long time and the same you have been living and preaching your kids...its long forgotten to care for our parents....Its long forgotten to respect them , listen to them and cherish what they do...today you are in a hurry....to catch the bus , to run behind the train and move behind something unseen and something you never wanted to...yet you ran miles apart from your parents and from your grand parents...
Grand father was in hospital trying to fight the battle....tryin to keep up his good faith in life and hopin to see his near and dear kids around...when he opened his eyes , he could see none but his wife...she is too heavy to support herself but yet tried her best to convince him that all's welll....its an irony , they have sacrificed all along their lives to these kids and today they are running to keep their life kicking where in he was trying to stop from running out of breathe! Its shame to us, to this society and to our parents who could not teach us what does it mean to care for our past .
they are engufled in future and never worried to turn behind...what an irony..we forgot the path we came from and lost in the future....you cannot go back nor can live with the future...its all human insane and its all gone....
what have you achieved these days....and the answer is much much smaller than the deep hurts given to your old parents....
they need your help...they need your support ...they need some one to cry for ,some one to shoulder their problems....they have done that to you in past and they want that back !
please give your parents their future because they are your past.
remember , at the end of the day , its you who can know what it takes to care for your parents!
Give your parents a chance to live and die with Great Honor

Today is his b'day and his children are celebrating this occassion !

Human insane !

The other day I happen to see CNN IBN for a documentary on Human trafficking
Infact countries like holland suffer from this . Children , especially girls for reasons better known to you are abused and misused. Some are done illegaly and some are forced to do, for those girls at a very young age won't even understand the physical nomenclature....well think again and suddenly veda ( a sweet little 3 year old girl comes into my mind) ...I saw her dying .she wanted to live but she dint know she need to breathe .She was raped! This telecast stunned me....My mind started wandering her heart - to tell her to live , to tell her to breathe....My friends if you think I am talking about human trafficking , then you are mistaken for reasons Child abuse is worse that the worst situation in 36 China town ! Yes this is happening and nobody knows what needs to be done....do you know atleast 30 to 40 % of the gals undergo physical abuse at a very young age of 5 to 10 years.!!!! we never know , next might be in your family,.....the monster is there and the bulls are running like maniacs....pls protect your kids...educate them about the touch and smell of the bloody phsycopath.....if you can't stop him he is ready to invade and distroy your world... The world of dreams for your daughter is in your hand. Tell them the good touch and bad touch. Tell them to read the minds....I know its difficult but do try and lit her life ......other wise it might be too late or it can go unnoiticed and can cause havocs in her future life....Think for sometime , not many kids can tell what has happened on them ? Can they or should they ? Its the parents who need to say and I leave it to them as to how they want to tackle this social issue .......

Children are god sent !!!

Bonded and jalied for ever....? Outrageous? Yet 10,000 children die every single day in India. More than in any tsunami, flood, earthquake, famine or war. Half of India's children are deprived of their fundamental right to education every day. Two million Indian babies die each year before they celebrate their first birthday. Millions of India's children go to bed each night hungry, hopeless and angry. We as a nation, seem quite content to tolerate this violation of their constitutional rights - Cry.org

they are born to die and die every day hoping to live someday.
they need us...they need some moment to tell thier pain and a bed to sleep and some food to eat.They suffer for no mistake of theirs. If we can make a difference to atleast one of this kids by helping them to complete a basic education, believe me we have done what we cannot achieve in 100 years - Yes a success in your life and a success in their lives too.

Its simple to live them to their fate and it takes a courage to help them to set the things right.THink about it.Can you leave your child to die its fate.We must protect these kids.Afterall they are our strength.They are the country's future. If we throw them , there will be no humanity left in us.THink about it because kids are god sent and they need our help.

Get the Value system correct !

We experience it every day - On the road , in the Job , In railway stations.Its nothing but chaos every where.BOmbay drowned in water suffered with blast and engulfed with pathetic transport facility.Everybody says , its the true spirit of Mumbaikar which made him to go normal life next day after the blast.I pity those who say so.Its not the spirit but the inevitability to earn his bread which makes him to risk his life daily!I cry for him not for his spirit but his inabilty to fight this monster called - Chaos in INDIA. We have loads of talents every where - In IIM's , in IIT'S and every damn shell .IT is booming so is the economy - Who says so?.Its the same people you have crippled the system in INDIA. Problems are every where and solutions are stupid but followed!

Blocked Drainages , Flooded cities , crimes on the run , chaos on the road , choked trains and the list is endless.Does it call for a permanent solution .When I think and discuss , I see a small hope to end this menace.Its the Bloody " Value system" we have with us in our mind! Yes its the values we acquire from the child hood which leads to all this situations.


If my values are great , I won't throw garbage in the drainage .So there may not be blocked water and No floods in the city provided I value my city and my Values say , I should not throw garbage here and there.Its as simple as it can be.So take it.Its all in the mind!

Stop honking.Sound pollution is one of the most dangerous intangibel pollution we have on the road.Can i convince the cab driver not to honk.No not all.Its only he who can change it!How , once again , its the "Values" he has imbided over a period of time.

Most shocking but true, en engineering student supposed to be a girl , threw all the shit on the platform sitting in the train.When my wife objected , she said ,"Relax , not u'r problem". THis was the most disgusting statement I culd ever imagine and was speechless...I thought and culd not rightly figure out , what went wrong with her.Defenitely educated but never had values.The Big "V" was missing with her.Its not so complicated to keep the waste in a cover and throw it to a dustbin.U dnt find one as u r naturally in India, keep it with you and throw it later!.Does this act of u'rs call for Phd ? no never and for god sake , this is the same bloody value system we have learnt and adopted over a period o time.I beg , do not ever teach the same to the kids.Try to imbibe morals and values so that they dnt follow you! No am serious , lets teach our kids these simple things and make them blossom out in a better world.


Raped and murder - Reason given was , she was wearing a lose skirt.Common , what are we trying to do?Are we dogs ? do I have to rape some one because she had a lose skirt! Pretty amazing to know the minds of these people.How did he ever turn like that.Simply answered , he has never been taught what the values and morals in life.Get this taught to him and he will be the most gently person!


Everything calls for an act - an Act of doing what is right and what is wrong.If we can understand this , we can ateast make a better place for our children to live .Next time , you honk , you throw shit ,you drink and abuse somebody , think that your kid is going to follow you and for him , tomorrow will die for ever ..........Because you are the role model

This Blog is dedicated to my beloved friend CSL without whom I would not have written this article

Too good to be true !

Imagine yourself staying with your best loved gal/guy in no-disturbed 11th floor apt in a high rising building ....NO Intruders and you are for urself! Too good to be true. why raise eyebrows? Its a touchy subject and unfortunately condemened in our society.There is whole lot of meaning of staying together willingly before tied up in a marriage.Ofcourse if agreed and married thats different! But the point is u njoy that relationship and u r totally honest to ur partner in what ever you act and do ! Its a true relationship that blossoms everyday and day after day between you both!But still unacceptable.Though I got the best loved gal in my life , I would just imagine myself and spend those 6/7 months of an honest relationship with my partner without being tied up! Its great and its worth those moments! The point is , you are just been true to urself at that point of life!

The subject is always debatable for pros and cons but the reason why I sketched is to tell you that , very few times in life , you have been true to urself and this is one of those !

Ibm Earned Billions !!!

Recently , I had to sell my asset .I had taken a composite loan from a leading banker!.I had two option.
1. Take the money from buyer and preclose the loan
2. Transfer the loan to buyer

I did 2nd one. Everything went fine till the last night and boom came shock that I had actually pay 2% penalty for preclosing the loan.Bear in mind that I had actually introduced a new customer to them with a much Higher interest rate of the loan and I was stamped with more penalty.Well , the guy I was actually dealing ,belong to sales department and It took 2 odd days to convince him that whyI dnt need to pay penalty for actually introducing the customer !Alls well and he told me to approach Operations department(Ops)! I introduce myself to this smart lady and I tell her to preclose the loan!Shell shocked she actually tells me to come between 12th and 20th of evry month for preclosure.Unfortunately I had to narrate her the entire flash back as to what happened in the sales department.....the story continues to be in loop...

I noticed 2 things

1. The leading banker was actually working as two disintegrated organisation (one sales organisation and the other Opns organisation though both belong to the same Banking wing!!!)
2. Customer delight went to -10 from +10 - My case was dangling all along and I am fighting till now!

To integrated these department , we need some basic Integration point and this exactly what IBM did in its late 1990. It exploited and built some interfaces across different vendors of software & hardware and today stands accolade for being a billionaire company.....

The great system (In this case : IBM) is not built on complex strategies but on basic needs of life and they did don the industry for many years....Simple but yet astonshing......

Pre-Judiced - Think Again!

Lot many people have an idea of what you are and what you should be like!
They prejudiced people and categorise accordingly....Now that is what is called a bonded(Contract ) relationship -:) .You will become a bonded friend!!!!
Surprised...yes it is,they want you to behave exactly as they anticipated and if you dnt you are in trouble.Take this example....A girl is driving her car on Hosur road and suddenly a tempo traveller notices her and zoom past her.Worst , he cannot move anywhere but to go alongside and irritate her.He expects the girl to irritate and throw tantrums! Worst yet to come , she might even stop and slap him.It it possible because traffic barely moves in hosur road and you have the time to stop and start the slap!!!
Look at this other scenario - Girl moves unpertrubed!She njoy's The hot radio mirchi and shut her car glasses and she could barely notice this merc Tempo traveller....He tries to grab her attention with his all non-sense road shows but yet she barely has an effect!!!! What happened......ha....The driver seems to be fish out of the water and he is not sure why he is like that!!Dnt you njoy that sight...definetly yes.
This happens , when you are what others dnt anticipate and when you live upto your expectations.It is this gesture of yours which will help you grow and hepled me grow too!!!

Live upto your expectations Leave other's to theirs! preJudiced - Think Again

Ten-Past-Ten

Confused about the title?read on

Life sucks when you fail doing something.But once you tresspass that , there is an end for it.Today I am barely successfull and blowing my own trumpet for selling my asset for 100% margin but this is the beginning of an era.It has opened a pandora box for so many other opportunities in my life.I will and shall take this at my side and see it grow!!!!!

Ten-past-ten - Ten oppurtunties come and passes by you and if you notice atleast one of them , you are sure to gain ten out of that BIG one!.. Believe me life sucks when you fail But once you tresspass that , there is an end for it.

Fear of failure is worst than the failure itself....so take that first step and you can walk miles........for ever and for ever......